Women in their 40s will agree with me, I think, that this decade is all about change. Launching kids, career transitions, shifts in our health. All of it impacts the quality of our friendships, both what we offer and what we need. My friendships definitely look different than they did in my 30s. They evolved even more this year.

During our annual January family getaway, I take a personal inventory. How did I live last year compared to my goals? What progress can I celebrate? What still belongs on my priority list, and what alarm bells are going off? I reflect, journal, and pray. God is very much a part of this process. He is the Shepherd who leads beside quiet waters, if only I slow down and listen.